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Honolulu by Alan Brennert

4 Feb 2010

I’ve been a reader since I was young, which means I’ve read a lot of books. Some books have been more memorable than others but when asked what my favorite book I’ve ever read, I always come up blank.

Never has a story touched me like Honolulu did. Maybe it was because of my infatuation with Hawaii or my being immersed in Korean culture lately, whatever it is this book is number one in my mind. A favorite, maybe all time favorite. I felt connected with the main character Jin. Not because I had anything in common with her but because the writing make me feel like I was with her in her struggles, journey and happiness. I don’t often become attached to the characters. The story was very well put together and the fact that it was written by a man in the perspective of Korean picture bride left me in awe. It amazes me all the background information that was read to weave the fictional story of Jin with accounts of actual picture brides and historical events and people.

This work of fiction truly inspired me. It made me realize that I read a lot of fluff, and while there is nothing wrong with that, I want to read more novels with substance.

Next time I’m asked what my favorite book is, I’ll have an answer, Honolulu by Alan Brennert.

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*I was not paid to review this book, it was something that I found in the library.

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my life, out of the box

In: perfectly maria| random thoughts

26 Jan 2010

Life is about movement, moving forward, regardless if we want to or not. It’s about growing as a person, and yes, stepping out of the proverbial box.

For someone who is a tiny bit afraid of heights, I never thought I’d be taking aerial yoga classes at the Detroit Flyhouse. I didn’t think I’d be trying to flip myself upside down while I have my foot locked into fabric. And I certainly never envisioned myself flying in mermaid pose on a trapeze.

This step of leaving my comfort zone has been one of the most rewarding experiences I’ve ever had. A month ago I didn’t even know something like this existed.

Clearly, I need to open my eyes to opportunities that are less mainstream. I’ve never felt particularly trendy or with the “popular” crowd. I’ve tried, but it never felt right. The more I embrace marching to my own tune, the more like me I feel.

For someone who is slightly antisocial I never thought I’d attend a blogger meet up. I didn’t think I’d have so much to laugh and talk about. And I certainly didn’t know that after meeting these 6 awesome ladies, I’d have wonderful new friends.

2010 is the start of exploring things I would never think of, going places I didn’t know existed and putting myself out there. I suppose that is what living is. Not only learning each day but taking chances and risks.

If you take a good look at your life, is that what you are doing? And if not, what’s stopping you?

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west coast bound

In: perfectly maria| travel

13 Jan 2010

In the past 4 days Chuck and I have went through a list of destinations for our next vacation. Las Vegas, Arizona, Key West and New York. What we decided on was San Diego when my finger typing and clicking came across a flight that we found was more than reasonable.

We’ve been talking about going to California for a long time now, it just seemed out of reach for our “budget”. I use that term loosely because, really, I’m horrid at actually setting a budget. The best I can do is estimate that either yes we can make it work or no we can’t.

I used to plan vacations months in advance. Now? I don’t want to wait more than a month, two, tops. So San Diego, here we come!

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Would you believe me if I told you I found a studio apartment to rent in Ocean Beach for $75/night? I did. They didn’t have any vacancy but there were others. Boy were there others. I have a whole list of places I’ve emailed and called. All for under $100/night.

Chuck and I aren’t picky about the size of the place we stay at. Mostly, it’s just a place to crash after a fun day. We’d much rather stay in a condo, studio or apartment than a hotel. That is just us. We like to be able to cook our own food so we aren’t eating out 3 meals a day. I like that a lot of rentals come with extras like boogie boards and bikes. It’s like borrowing someone’s home.

The first time we did it was on our honeymoon in Hawaii and we vowed never to stay in a hotel again, unless it was some place like Chicago or New York. For fun we’ve looked at villas in Tuscany. There are vacation rentals everywhere! Even in northern Michigan.

If you are planning a vacation and are thinking about looking into a vacation rental I use VRBO, Home Away and Vacation Rentals.

Oh and in case you are wondering, I wasn’t asked to write this post, I’m just amazed that more people don’t know about these websites and what they have to offer.

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2000-2009 review

In: perfectly maria

30 Dec 2009

Wow a decade in review. It’s crazy that it’s almost 2010. I remember when we were all freaking out about Y2K. It’s no joke that 2000 was my best year yet. Definitely the best of the decade. With 2007 coming in close behind, but a couple bad things happened to mar the year.

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A look back…Keep in mind the years from 2001-2004 are kind of blank to me and since my photos are a mess I might not have much to remember off the top of my head.

2000

Spring Break in Hawaii with Lisa and Amanda
Prom – Garden City and Harrison with Mike
Graduation
The best summer of my life in Oscoda. Great friends and nothing but 4 months of time to burn before college started.
Starting at Wayne State and thanks to June, working in the Registrar’s office where I stayed for my college career.

2001

Met the boy that I wish I wouldn’t have. I’m blaming this on certain people that wouldn’t drive Michelle and I home from the Super 8 and he came to get us. Just saying…
Turning 19 and going to Canada with Scott, Aaron, Ryan, Jeff, Kurt, Heather, Tammy and of course Gabriela.
Blink 182 with Michelle, Raychel and Jenny

2002

this is really sad…I have no idea what went on this year…

Oh I know, met an old friend on the beach before continuing on to Hubbard Lake. I didn’t say everything I wanted to. Hindsight is 20/20

2003

I turned 21 and Benihana is where our last family picture was taken
My mom passed away
I finally broke up with the boyfriend that constantly made me feel bad about myself
I spent Labor Day with Ryan and his friends
I got to hang out with Landon, months before he died
I met Chuck

2004

Went to Myrtle Beach with Lisa and Michelle
Took Chuck camping at Old Orchard – the first time anyone but my girlfriends came with me

2005

Visited Arizona and Ft. Meyers with Chuck
Graduated from Wayne State
Moved to Florida with Chuck
Adopted Liko
My dad opened his Taekwondo school in Westland

2006

Moved back to Michigan
Started my job at U of M
Adopted Scooby & Kona
Started Taekwondo with my Dad

2007

Slid on some black ice and smashed my car
Kona and Nani got in 2 dog fights, one where I ended up in ER
Had to give Kona back to the rescue organization
Planned our wedding in Kauai and got married on the beach
Turned 25 and got my first tattoo in Honolulu
On my mom’s birthday got my second tattoo

2008

Reunited with old friends
Took a girl trips one with Michelle and one with Lisa
Bought a house
Received my Bodan in Taekwondo
Sparred for the first time in a tournament

2009

Built the Man Shack
Went to Chicago and St. Pete
Took a road trip with Lisa
Got a promotion

It’s really sad there are times I can’t recall what happened. And I don’t have pictures to remind me. Anything you can think of that happened that I should add?

What about you, what does your decade in review look like?

©marialaitan.com

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unexpected vet visits

In: animal behavior

10 Dec 2009

liko Back in October 2008, Chuck and I went to the grocery store. When we got home we found an empty bottle of advil on the floor complete with teeth marks that had chewed the plastic bottle in half.

We couldn’t find Liko. He was hiding under a blanket his eyes as big as dinner plates. When we called him he could barely walk and was swaying from side to side. We were pretty sure that the bottle was almost full and Liko weighs 15 pounds.

Frantic calls to the Animal Poison Control and to the emergency vet, since it was Sunday, had us wrapping the now projectile vomiting rat terrier in a blanket and rushing him to the emergency room. He had to stay overnight where they gave him charcoal and flushed his blood.

The next day the emergency vet let us take him to our regular veterinary office where they advised he stay overnight for the same treatment. Dr. Mathew let us take him home that night with instructions to bring him back in a couple of days for tests, to make sure no permanent damage had been done to his liver or kidneys.

Luckily, Liko’s test came back fine and 6 months later he tested normal again. It was such a relief. What was not a relief was the $800 emergency veterinary bill and the $300 bill to Dr. Mathew.

According the an article on Dog Age I received via email, here are ways to help pay for unexpected vet expenses:

Consider pet insurance. Although it requires making small but continual payments, having pet insurance could help soften the blow of bigger vet bills down the road.
Be honest with your vet. Let him or her know that you’re having trouble making ends meet, and ask if he or she would be willing to work out a payment plan to help you get your bills paid off. See if there is a monthly amount you could pay that would work for both of you.
Talk to some other vets. Although it will probably cost you a consultation fee, it might be worth it to get a second opinion — or even a third — before committing to expensive services or procedures.
Visit a vet school. Many schools operate clinics that provide services at discounted rates, so check around to see if there is one anywhere near you.
Check with your local shelter. Their staff might be able to recommend subsidized vet clinics or other programs that can offer assistance. Also, check with the Humane Society of the United States for other available resources.

This post is purely of my opinion and personal experience.

©marialaitan.com

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#best09 : dec5

In: perfectly maria| random thoughts

5 Dec 2009

Did you have a night out with friends or a loved one that rocked your world? Who was there? What was the highlight of the night?

Probably the most exciting hockey game I ever went to was Game 7 of the Red Wings vs the Anaheim Ducks in May 2009. I was with Chuck, my Uncle Andy and Aunt Liza. It was beyond the edge of your seats game. I’ve never heard the Joe so loud before. It really was an experience.

Unfortunately, I picked that night to forget my camera! We had a really good time and we were definitely high on the crowd’s energy and ready for the next round to start when we left the arena!

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#best09 : dec4

In: random thoughts

4 Dec 2009

What book – fiction or non – touched you?

19 Minutes by Jodi Piccoult.

It was an emotional book that showed both sides of a school tragedy. You didn’t want to sympathize with the shooter because of the awful situation he created but you couldn’t help it. The book made me really understand that there are two sides to everything.

If you are looking for a thought provoker this is definitely a good read.

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take it lightly

In: perfectly maria| random thoughts

3 Dec 2009

The Watson and I are going to see New Moon tonight. Don’t worry we aren’t obsessed fans that might cry when the movie starts. More likely we’ll be the jerks in the row behind you laughing at all the awkwardness and heavy breathing on the screen. I won’t lie that’s what we were like when we saw Twilight at the dollar show.

I told Amy that we aren’t allowed to sit by anyone because I really don’t want to get yelled at for our sarcastic remarks. It’s about the experience of the movie, not the movie itself. Plus, I won’t have to feel bad about not working out tonight because Amy makes me laugh so hard it’s like doing sit-ups anyways.

At work yesterday someone’s daughter had a baby and named her Isabella, yes it is thought after Bella in Twilight. This scares me. These poor babies being born that are named after characters in a book. And let’s be honest, a book that wasn’t exactly well written. It’s not like it’s a classic. This lady got lucky. The plot is great, the writing, not so much.

Moving on, it just so happens that Jacob is one of the only boy names Chuck and I have both liked. Now, if* we ever have a boy Jacob is totally out of the question because of all the twilight freaks. Now if only I can get Chuck to like Evan…

Total bummer.

*THAT IS A BIG IF DON’T READ INTO IT. THANKYOUVERYMUCH

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#best09:dec1

In: random thoughts

1 Dec 2009

What was your best trip in 2009?

Chicago – March 29th for Chuck’s birthday.

We took the train. I found an awesome deal on a classy hotel. We did a lot of shopping, some sightseeing and had an awesome time. We want to go back soon!

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