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In: random thoughts
1 Dec 2009Chicago – March 29th for Chuck’s birthday.
We took the train. I found an awesome deal on a classy hotel. We did a lot of shopping, some sightseeing and had an awesome time. We want to go back soon!







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I got my haircut and colored today. Not sure how I feel about the bangs…
What do you think?
A couple weeks ago I sparred with DJ. He’s 14. He’s fast and he kicks me in the head every single time I spare with him. A week later he wanted to spare again and I declined because some nights, I just don’t feel like having a foot to my skull. You know, when you’ve already had a bad day?
Anyhow, I forget how it came up but I was like I’m almost 15 years older than you, I have an excuse why I don’t want to spare. One of the parents heard me and couldn’t believe I was 27, she thought I was 19, at most.
Everyone always told me I’d love my young look when I got older, and you know what? I totally do. I’m not going to lie, it irritated me when I would go to the store and the person behind the register told me “You don’t look old enough to ride a tricycle” (haha funny dude) or when I got asked how old I was before I even got up to the counter to get a library card this summer. Yes, a library card. The librarian didn’t think I was 18. (When exactly did they start carding for a library card anyway?)
I think it’s because most of the time I’m in jeans and a t-shirt and I don’t wear much makeup. I honestly don’t know. Since I’ve been scanning old pictures (thanks to Michelle) I thought I’d compare a couple, and I guess I haven’t changed that much. Sure I have more laugh lines around my eyes but I consider that a good thing.
What do you think?

July 1999

August 2009
You should probably sit down for this.
Are you sitting?
Ok.
I’ve killed many, many plants in my day. I drowned a cactus and dried out orchids. C’mon I killed a bamboo stalk and I’m not even sure how I did it.
There must be magic in our house because I’ve managed to not only keep this cactus alive but it’s prospering.

Shut UP, it’s blooming!!!
So pretty! My Dad should be proud.
Not to mention that my weeping willow is also doing well. I don’t have a picture of it though.
Would you look at that, my thumb might have some green in it after all.
In: animal behavior
9 Nov 2009
I have a soft spot for pit bulls. I still miss Kona but for us we had to give her back to the rescue agency. It was not because she was a pit bull. It was because she was a nervous dog, with nervous energy that did not fit comfortably in our pack.
We did not do our homework and the rescue agency she came from failed on their end too. He brought Kona over and decided it was safe and left her. It was not safe and there was tension ignored between her and Nani. If/when we bring another dog into our house I am now better informed. I will make sure there are proper play dates at our house and maybe an overnight before we take on a dog forever.
When we adopted Scooby we were told he was a boxer/shepherd mix. Not that it mattered, he got along with Nani and Liko and they’ve become a cohesive group. Browsing dog breed websites and ASPCA I can see a strong resemblance to a pit bull, in the color of his fur and the shape of his mouth and head. I don’t know for sure, nor do I really care. His fur is longer and finer than a pit bull’s and his tail is more like a shepherd and he uses his front paws like a boxer. The only reason I point this out is that if Farmington decided to ban pit bulls I want to have a reason for them not to target us.
Let’s face it: pit bulls are public enemy No. 1. That’s quite a comedown for a pup once considered “America’s dog.” They were owned by the likes of Helen Keller and Teddy Roosevelt, and when I was a kid, a wiry American pit-bull terrier named Sam endured the indignity of being called a “horsy” as he pulled me around in a wagon on an upstate New York farm. But in talking with pit-bull experts, it’s clear that some current owners are too easy to spook, are too ill-informed, and have unrealistic expectations of what pit bulls can do.
Taken from Newsweek, Owners, Not Pit Bulls, Are the Problem

Kona - Christmas 2006 ©marialaitan
Breedism is unfair.
It’s like saying you hate small dogs. All small dogs are not alike. Most pit bulls are at the mercy of their clueless owners. Any dog can be aggressive. Any dog can attack another dog. Any dog can attack a person. They all have the same instincts, some stronger than others. Their personalities and experiences shape them, but unlike humans their experiences don’t have to scar them for life.
For those who don’t know I lived through not one, but two, viscous dog fights between Nani and Kona. (Nani is a black lab, didn’t see that coming did you?) I don’t know how both dogs survived. I know that I have bite scars on my wrists and hands to prove it (because not knowing what else to do I had to pull them apart). I also know that I’d adopt another pit bull if it fit into our pack.
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In: perfectly maria
9 Nov 2009Michelle has been back in Michigan since July (I think, she’ll let me know if I’m wrong haha), and I finally just got up to Cheboygan this past weekend. I was supposed to go a couple weeks ago but something cough-mydadscheduledbelttesting-cough came up.
This past weekend was probably better weather wise anyhow because if I can recall the weekend I was supposed to go was cold and possibly rainy. The drive wasn’t as far as I thought it would be, it only took me about 3 hours and 45 minutes.
It was a quick overnight trip because of course I was swamped at work the week before preparing for a meeting with our VP on Monday. And I had homework I needed to do before I met with my team virtually, which was a total waste of time, I might add.
It was nice to just hang out, I hadn’t been to Cheboygan in at least 7 years, maybe longer. We found a cute little coffee shop and tried it out. The pumpkin pie latte was a little watery but not unbearable. Not like the one I got at Espresso Royale in Ann Arbor, it was disgusting!
I won’t mention that I beat Michelle and Curt at Trivial Pursuit.
On Michelle’s tour of Cheboygan we stopped at makeout beach, though I wasn’t aware at the time that’s what it was called.

©marialaitan
When we moved last December I had left a couple boxes of pictures out in the garage because I was going to paint my office and I didn’t want to haul them downstairs. Chuck thought he was doing a good thing and cleaning up the garage…he threw at least 3 of my albums out. I try not to think about it because it hurts.
One of the best things about having such a close friend is that Michelle has almost all of the doubles of the pictures that disappeared. This is possibly why Chuck is still alive. To be fair he feels really horrible about it, he didn’t even look in the boxes, just assumed they were trash because I left them out there. He knows how much my pictures mean to me.
So when I left Michelle’s house I left with bags of photos I need to scan. It’s going to be a huge project but it’s fun to go through all of them. It’s funny, I found a picture from Christmas where we got each other complimenting sweaters. Both were blue and had a stripe on them. We still do things like that. I guess our minds still think alike. I brought Abby a toy and it was one of the first things Michelle had bought Abby. Luckily she was able to exchange it for something else.
It was a good trip, hopefully I will see them again soon!
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In: random thoughts| technology| tkd
24 Oct 2009
© Kate Wall
I had my second pretest today. The last one before I will (fingers crossed) test for my first degree black belt. Even more awesome is that my dad is finally (fingers crossed again) testing for his fourth degree on the same day.
I went to my dad’s black belt testing for his first degree. I remember standing in Grand Master’s school and being in total awe by the synchronization of the students doing their poomses. The things that they had memorized and how confident they all looked. It’s amazing to me that I will soon be testing for my black belt.
I’m also amazed by the amount of confidence that I’ve gained in tae kwon do. I remember being near panic attacks before testing. It wasn’t until after my (I think) blue belt testing that I became more comfortable. Probably because at that testing I completely blanked on my poomses. It was in front of a bunch of people and being video taped. Needless to say I was completely mortified. It was the worst case scenario and I lived through it. It helps too, that I know what to expect, and most of all, I’m much more confident in my skills.

© Kate Wall
One of the questions that was asked of me today was “How has tae kwon do improved my life?” My answer was my health and that I get to spend more time with my Dad. My health and spending time with my dad are definitely the most important but in retrospect I realized that there was a hole in my life that tae kwon do fills. It was something that I didn’t even realize was missing until I started kicking.
Tae kwon do is more than just poomses, blocking sets, kicking bags and sparring. One day I will write a post about the numerous ways that tae kwon do has changed my life.
When we first got Scooby 3 years ago we had to crate him. We tried leaving him out multiple times. He started sucking/chewing on the couch corners. We bought the bitter apple spray. He ate the couch. It never occurred to us that he would like the taste. And that he would associate what was sprayed with bitter apple was meant to be eaten. I never said he was was the brightest crayon in the box.
I’m not sure how he survived the day we came home to find the couch chewed up either.
A couple months after we moved into our house we decided to try it again. He has been fine left out for the past 9 months. But the other day, we came home to find a couch pillow had been sucked and chewed a little in the corner.
It’s a brand new couch, we haven’t paid it off yet…
I’m hoping what happened was that the pillow had fallen off the couch and onto the floor and he thought it was his. The dogs have their own blankets and beds.
God help him if he touches an actual couch cushion…
Back in August I was approached in an email from Drew to feature his band N.E.D on my blog. I’m not going to lie I was a little skeptical at first. But I checked out the links he sent me and this is for a great cause. N.E.D stands for No Evidence of Disease (a phrase that every gynecologic oncologist hopes to tell a patient after undergoing cancer treatment) and all the members of N.E.D are musically talented gynecologic cancer surgeons. I know right, your first thought was What?
In Drew’s email he elaborates about the mission and goals for this band,
The band’s mission is to enhance knowledge about the disease, bring hope through rhythm for women undergoing treatment, and raise awareness & money for the fight against women’s reproductive cancers.
One of the ways they will be doing this is through their six-song EP with styles that range from indie to folk-rock. The music and lyrics are original, written by members of the band who collaborated primarily through video conferencing. If you listen closely to the lyrics, you will hear a fresh and sympathetic approach to issues women with cancer and their families face. The CD is slated for release on September 8th to coincide with Gynecologic Cancer Awareness Month. Both the physical and digital EP include an informational booklet about gynecologic cancers entitled, “What Every Woman Should Know.” Net proceeds from the sale of the CD will be donated to the N.E.D. Cancer Foundation in association with the Gynecologic Cancer Foundation (GCF) to educate the public about gynecologic cancers and support promising research.
Also worth noting – N.E.D.’s drummer, Dr. Nimesh Nagarsheth, will be releasing a book, Music and Cancer: A Prescription for Healing, in mid-September, 2009. The book opens with a moving foreword by Fran Drescher, President and Visionary of the Cancer Schmancer Movement.
We all know someone that has been affected by cancer. I think this is a new innovative way to gain support for the cause and raise money.
Other places you can find N.E.D
N.E.D. on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/pages/NED/42697252281
The Gynecologic Cancer Foundation (GCF): www.TheGCF.org
Women’s Cancer Network (WCN): www.wcn.org
GCF’s National Cervical Cancer Public Education Campaign: www.cervicalcancercampaign.org
The Inaugural GCAM Half Marathon: www.gcfrace.com
In: tkd
16 Sep 2009Save the date on your calendar and come watch Master Roger’s student perform Korean Tae Kwon Do forms or dress comfortably and participate in class. We’d love to see you there!
You can find the new location at:
31208 5 Mile Rd
Livonia, MI 48154